Donald Trump’s attacks on parenting are not just disgusting, they represent a return to wives shutting the f*ck up and caring for the kids while husbands take care of money and being the boss. He has already alienated women, minorities, and basically everyone except for about 29.1 percent of the country, so why not piss off parents too?
“Toxic Masculinity,” so-called feminist buzzwords that indicate attitudes and patriarchal behaviors that are actually harmful to the men who embrace them, seems to actually define Donald Trump’s platform — and liberals would do well to remember that many of his supporters are attracted to that. These interviews uncovered by Buzzfeed range from 2003 to 2007 and seem to reinforce his status as a giant stinking embarrassment to America.
Parenting, and especially fatherhood, has evolved. Along with the fact that nearly half of two parent homes have two working parents just to make ends meet, both parents take a more active role in parenting. Donald Trump’s backwards and outdated gender role dependent parenting is in opposition to the “family man” image that he is trying to project now, often mugging with his kids on the podium or talking about his kids.
And, this is not something he can sweep under the rug with his new “it’s all an act” strategy of cleaning up his tarnished and disgusting behaviour because it pre-dates his run.
When host Anthony Cumia asked Donald Trump “Do you actually change diapers?” on the Opie and Anthony show in November of 2005, his response covered more than that. Remember, when giving this answer a decade ago, his wife Melania was pregnant with his fifth child and her first, he responded bluntly: “No, I don’t do that.”
Not only does he not change diapers, it appears he thinks hands-on care of a child by their father (something we know to benefit children immensely) is for suckers with manipulative wives:
There’s a lot of women out there that demand that the husband act like the wife and you know there’s a lot of husbands that listen to that. So you know, they go for it.
If I had a different type of wife, I probably wouldn’t have a baby, ya know, cause that’s not my thing. I’m really like a great father but certain things you do and certain things you don’t. It’s just not for me.
Here is that interview:
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Not too bad, I mean, “certain things” means that he could at least, say, spend enough time with his child to be seen in public with them, right? Wrong: he can finance them, and spend an hour or so with them, and then, if the child “has good skills,” as an adult, they could even get a job with his companies, as other interviews reveal. The role that he takes as a parent is minimal at best, and nearly solely financial if these interviews (from before his presidential run) are not out and out lies.
From the Howard Stern interview:
Stern also asked how Trump’s daughter, Tiffany, was doing.
“I do see her and she’s a great kid,” Trump said.
“She comes to town, visits a little bit,” Stern asked.
“You know for about an hour — ‘Hi dad,’ ‘Hi Tiff, I love you Tiff.’ She’s a great kid,” Trump said, laughing, saying he “glances” at her report cards. Trump said he would give Tiffany a future job at the Trump Organization if she had good abilities.
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Let me make this clear, whether a man wants his wife silently keeping the child from bothering him in a gilded penthouse wearing Prada and Jimmy Chu’s, or keeping the kids out of his way while barefoot and pregnant taking care of home and hearth in a rent-controlled trailer, the result is the same: horrifically outdated gender stereotypes that rob children of half of the love, attention, life-lessons, and confidence and cognitive development that could have been available to them.
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Mindsets like these make being wives more like being single parents (with the admitted advantage of funding), and while single parents are in general miracle workers, when there are two parents available to a child, one of them just “opting out” of the tough and gross and exhausting parts shows a supreme laziness and lack of empathy, not to mention lack of ability to follow through.
We also need to remember this, the ranks of single fathers (who do everything single moms do, with less societal support) and stay at home dads are increasing as we retire outdated gender roles for what works best for individual families.
These men don’t need a poser like Trump attacking their healthy masculinity over stupid sh*t like being a good father — which most people will probably agree makes them more of a man than Trump.
Admitting that you only reproduce because someone is willing to take on 100 percent of the responsibility you SHOULD have towards that life you actively helped come into being makes you a buffoon, and just because you finance a child shouldn’t save you from the title absentee parent. This is not the kind of man we want at the helm of this nation, at all.
For nothing other than the fact that he has attacked all parents with this tripe he deserves ridicule because a man taking an active and hands-on role with a child is not “acting like a wife,” it is simply “being a parent.”
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